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Zella

by Zella
(Coolangatta.QLD 4225 Austraila.)

This is little wee Zella at 5 yrs old

This is little wee Zella at 5 yrs old

This wee baby was born in Wellington, abandoned in Waihi, in foster homes around Paeroa area. Zella was a 15 month old baby, with a 6 wk old brother named Duane. They were both abandoned by their incubator in a house in Waihi (she deserves no entitlement name as a mother... so she is called an incubator).

This incubator had another child one year later. The baby was found on the floor of the hospital, with brain damage, in Dundin (after she was refused a pension).

The Sperm bank (who neither has a title as father due to the sexual abuse, and lack of love and care given to Zella).

He (the sperm bank) took charge of Zella and not giving her any proper medical care. Zella was abused and neglected, had sores all over her wee body every where.

And the Sperm bank refused to take her to the Doctors. And even for some one else to take her to the Doctors. He refused.

Child welfare ordered a warrant, and committed Zella to child welfare as an Orphan ward of the NZ state where she stayed for 18 yrs... in foster homes.

She and her brother Duane never got to meet each other until it was too late.. Duane spent his life in prison... from stealing food to robbing banks.. prison was his home :( where sadly he hung himself. :(...

Zella never cried as a baby and could only speak 5 to 6 words at the age of 5yrs. Life was hard and children were cruel.

Zella was never allowed to be adopted by the many families who wanted her. She had horrible step sisters who preyed on her and a step mother who always put her at the end of the line.

But she had one step daddy who loved her and who she loved so much. Until one he had a heart attack and Zellas' world crumbled again and again.

Zella never learned to read and write at school and had no one to help her with school work and anyway no one really cared.

Zella struggled though life...and taught herself best she could.

The number ONE problem she had all her life was
wondering what was so wrong with her as a baby for her to be so UN-LOVED AND NOT WANTED !! and why nobody wanted her.

And why NO ONE had the decency to tell her the Truth. No family to be told of...

Growing up alone with no one to call her family. And now has the problem of not knowing where to call home. No roots. she keeps to herself and lives alone. And she is a beautiful person. After all she has been through, she also lost her 4yr old daughter, who was killed by a car.

She has a good heart and helps everyone she can. And tries so hard not to be like other people.... who don't give a damn... :(

Even today she struggles without anybody seeing or knowing ...Yet you would never know... I hope one day someone will give her the love.... and help she so much needs and deserves....

Thank You
Zella

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Zella

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Sep 23, 2009
To scared & sad
by: Its Zella

Please dont be scared or sad..Time has come for you... this is your time now. Time to let go your little girl, and let her grow into a beautiful young lady, and so she can make you proud of her. Let her go so she can miss you and appreciate all the things in life you gave her.
Values, love, trust, let her go..so she can come back and be loved, and fussed over, by YOU her one and only Mother. You love her too much not to.
Now is your time to let the past go... and turn the page. But first.. Please Please DO NOT TAKE ANTIDEPRESSION PILLS....They Do Not give you the answer.. they are a sticking plaster... A cover up. Or can even make you worse...

You have a lovely daughter... you have to show her the way in life.. She looks up to you for her values.....in what ever you do... please don't give up on her.... and let her go though what you have... she needs your more now than ever.. she needs to know you are strong and will always be there for her. And NOT scared to come home to you.

SO NOW IS YOUR TIME... Time to let the past go!!
Time for what I call a NEW MAKE OVER, inside and outside. Head to toe : ) And you can do this. You just need someone to guide You. Thats all. You are stronger than you think. Why? Because you know how to love.. and what it's like Not to be loved, Just like myself. Find all the things you love to have, do, see, feel, look, everything that makes you happy and shine. Things you have always wanted in life.
Darlin' I'm here today, from an unwanted babe, no family and tuff times. No religon on my own.
And you know what sweety, I don't need no world to validate Me, and I dont live in hell.. and I have a good heart just like you : )
I'm more than happy to be your friend, if you need someone to talk with. Just Contact Laura... and tell her.
Now you put your head up, and be proud and happy of who you are..
Take Care Sweetness
Your Friend
Zella x

Sep 19, 2009
Scared and so sad
by: scared and so sad

I am 43 years old and my daughter going to university next week. I was almost suicidal (have lost my 1st child at almost 4 years old 22 years ago).
My doctor gave me anti-depressants last week. I agreed to see the mental health team and just had my first meeting. Lady said I had abandonment issues. My mum left when I was 5. There one day and gone the next- no goodbyes. Brought up by a Dad who I found out later wasn't my real biological dad and always let me know through my childhood he didn't like me but did my siblings by my Mum. Turns out I was the product of her affair. I am scared but have agreed to go back for a meeting next week again and I hope and pray I carry on with the therapy. I need it. I now know I need to go back to my childhood to cure my fears now. My fear to trust. I break relationships up because I'm scared they'll leave anyway, so I break up before they go. Maybe it's time I faced therapy and face my inner self so I don't self destruct. Maybe it's time at 43 years old I let my bright 19 year old girl go to University happy and independent. You see I'm scared. I'm on my own as my baby girl goes to university. I'm so scared.

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