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You Can Heal Instantly with this Proven Stress Reducer



This stress reducer helps you heal BOTH WAYS. First -- you can heal the hidden emotions that create stress. Second -- you can heal the emotional effects of stress.

This powerful process will help you to:

know what your needs are

express them

and feel heard.

What you'll do here is a treatment that is supported by cutting edge brain science. It is one of the most important things you can do to improve your life AND your health, as these links explain.

Intro to the emotional effects of stress (you may have just come from there).


Brain Science reveals why this alternative treatment for depression is so important and so effective.


A Mother of Three Says This About the Stress Reducer Process:

        "I came upon your website last night as I was doing a    
         search on abandonment issues. I went through the 
         emotional release exercise, and boy, did I have 
         emotional release! I really got down to some core 
         issues from the past and just about cried my heart out. 
         I got in touch with a lot of those deep abandonment 
         issues and cried and cried. I felt so much better 
         afterward as I have had a terrible depression and 
         heaviness on my chest for a LONG time and just worse 
         recently. I have felt light as a feather since then if 
         that makes sense. Your website and exercise was truly a 
         godsend as I have had sooooo much pain all bottled up 
         inside that couldn't get out despite going to several 
         counselors over the years. I was seriously thinking one 
         day I would just have to do myself in to escape the 
         pain. I am TRULY grateful for just this one exercise 
         that has brought me a great amount of relief. It is the 
         first time in a LONG time I have felt a peace. I am 
         looking forward to our phone session if this is any 
         indication of further healing. Thanks so much. -H-




This emotional stress reducer is a deep process that requires about 15 minutes of PRIVATE time.


HOW TO: Do each step before reading the next step. Take your time, bring your awareness into your heart-space. Stay in your heart, not in your head. Be as a child, trust the process...it works.

~1.~ Breathe deeply and gently through your nose. Take several soft, full breaths.

Stay present. It helps to remember that you are not alone, we are all on the journey. Look at a picture of a trusted human face if you can. Here is my picture in case you don't have one.

Being present
with breath and body
is a stress reducer


~2.~ Scan your body and ask, "Where is energy blocked"? Notice sensations or numbness.

Is the energy block mostly in your head? (If you need to, ask each spot, "Is this the place?" until you get a yes.)

throat?

chest?

solar plexus/stomach area?

pelvic area?

sacrum/tailbone?

~3.~ Put a hand on the area and breathe for a moment. Ask... "Energy needs to go into this space or out of this space?" Energy goes in with each inhale, OR out with each exhale.


~4.~ Bring your inner gaze to your heart. Ask your body, "What is the main negative emotion I am feeling"?




~5.~ Do you feel:

Angry Afraid Unforgiving
Sad Joyless Paranoid
Envious Jealous Apathetic
Lonely Hurt Inadequate
Depressed Guilty Victimized
Anxious Unsafe Despairing
Hopeless Ashamed Frustrated
Worried Resentful Abandoned
Bitter



Speaking your truth
is a huge stress reducer

~6.~ Ask, "What are some ways I feel this?" Speak out-loud or whisper. Make a list, simple and easy. "There is this and this and then there is that too, and then, on top of it all..." Connect fully with everything about your feeling.

~7.~ As you connect with your feeling, slowly scan your body. Notice as you speak...where are you tense or empty? Numb or heavy? Get details...clenched hands? tight throat?


Giving close attention to your body is an immediate stress reducer


~8.~ If your body feelings had a color, what would it be? Usually it is a murky color. Exhale this color for a few breaths. See the color exhaling OUT of the body areas that have the feelings.






Experiencing a frequency of color
or sound or smell
is an energizing stress reducer.

~9.~ Now breathe a light-filled color into the same places. Go with the first color that comes up. Inhale the color into your body areas until they are saturated.

~10.~ Ask, "When was the first time I felt this way?" Go back to that time...like it is a movie you are in.

What was the situation? Was there stress?

Was there an important person? How was your relationship with them?

What kind of problems were they dealing with?

How did their problems affect your relationship with them?

~11.~ Now imagine talking about your feeling and about the situation with someone who was in your life at that time. (It might not be the same person as above, it may be a divine being, it may be your higher self or spirit guide, but try for a person first.)

This stress reducer takes you to the first time the hurt happened (when you couldn't deal with your feelings and get what you needed).

When you come up with someone, a parent or a sibling for example, don't consider whether you could REALLY have told them. You could NOT or you would have.

Go with who ever comes up. Maybe it's your mother. Imagine saying "Mom, I feel X" (your feeling from the list). Imagine that you could say it simply, maybe as a young child, and that the listener's IDEAL HIGHER SPIRIT SELF hears you...listens to you in the way that you NEED.

You experience telling and being heard in order to release and heal the feelings and needs trapped inside you.



It is important for your child or earlier self to speak, be heard, and be responded to.


Once they hear you, imagine they say or do something that is exactly what you need. Maybe they just hold you. This is all FOR YOU. You speak your feelings and they say or do what helps you feel better. You get the response you need but couldn't get back then.


Getting what you need
is a great stress reducer!



This communication doesn't try to FIX everything, but it is helpful. (If you cannot imagine the person doing this with you, pick another person.) Again, you are working with the IDEAL part of them, not their personality. Get the connection and comfort that you needed from them.




Move your body the way that IT wants to-- so the old stress releases.



~12.~ When your communication feels complete, get up, move and stretch. Moving your energy is an absolutely critical stress reducer. Remember where the energy was stuck and ask your body to release it. It is time for it to go ...and it is safe to do so, you don't need it anymore, you have received the higher learning from it.

Standing strong in your needs
with no shame
is a stress reducer

~13.~ Now sit and relax deeply again. What did you need when you were a child in that situation? Again, simple is best. It can be "to know it will all be ok", or "that I am ok" . Trust what ever comes up. Say it. "I need "X". Say it a few times. Don't worry that you are setting up a need, you are setting up fulfillment of the need in this situation. "Hey, Mom, I need X (joy, for example)".

You truly did and do need whatever it is. Imagine the important people in your life now and imagine telling them, "Hey, so and so, I need X"

You are simply sharing this news with them.

You are not asking them to fill your need.

You are not saying that it is their fault or their problem that you have a need.

You are an example of the power of embracing unmet needs. You are empowering them to embrace their needs.

Embrace your needs and the universe works on your behalf to supply it to you.

Embracing your needs is a crucial stress reducer!

Try it...and watch for your miracles.




Needing something isn't bad.

Whatever your need is, it is easy to see how the world would be a better place if everyone had that same need fulfilled. How, for example, can a mother give a child a feeling of safety when the mothers' need for safety isn't met?

So allow yourself yourself to have your needs with dignity.

This stress reducer helps you attract fulfillment of your needs. You are a brighter light for us all. You are truly helping ALL of us by embracing your needs.

~14.~ IMAGINE that when you were a child, your need HAD been filled.

How would you have been different? Would you have developed differently?

Imagine and FEEL your life where your need was taken care of and you have always had this need filled.

FEEL THAT DIFFERENT WAY OF BEING FOR A MOMENT.

~15.~ What picture, image, or symbol do you see when you imagine living your life with your need fulfilled? Close your eyes. See the image in detail. Feel it. Breathe it in. Bring it into your body, heart, vision. Let it merge completely through you.

~16.~ Slowly come back into now.

How do you feel? Drink some water.

You did a great job! Watch for changes in your life. What you needed back then is exactly what you need to transform your life now. Congratulations. Give yourself a big hug!


Seeing the difference you make
in your healing & happiness
might be the best stress reducer of all



Return to Stress Reducer Intro


See what brain science reveals about this emotional stress relief.


Go to other Self Help therapies at "Overcoming Depression"


Return to Natural Cures for Depression Homepage from Stress Reducer


Go to Depression Self Help Intro


If you (or someone you know) face the challenges of raising a kid with special needs, this site is an excellent resource. Written by a father of a special needs kid. http://www.raising-special-kids.com

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  • "I can't remember what life was like before because I am not that person any more, ~ but I do know I used to be pretty darned miserable." V.G., Software Engineer, Boston




    I am a Certified Resonance Repatterning Practitioner since 2000 and have offered phone sessions for several years
    ~they work beautifully and powerfully.

    The safety of home allows for very deep healing. Each session also provides you
    with customized self-healing techniques.Laura Frisbie, M.Ed., CRRP


  • Contact   Email me to schedule a session or a time to talk for a few minutes before you decide. Sessions are 90 minutes with NO long distance charges. 1 for $90, 2 for $85 each, 3 for $80 each, 4 and up for $75 each.

    ~! NEW !~ Shorter sessions DO HELP ALOT. Try a 45 minute session for $55.

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