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my mommy had to go away when i was only 2yrs old

by alice
(mexico)

when my two sons were 2 and 4 and 1/2 i had to go to prison for aiding and abbetting their father in a drug case that was brought upon him, now after 6 years i have done my time and have been deported to mexico, i have my sons with me but my 8 yr old which was 2 when i left him has night tremors and shakes and cannot express himself to me, and breaks his toys, please help me.....
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Ok, Alice, I would really like to help. First, please tell me in detail the story of this child's life. From birth to now, every person and home and caregiver. The transitions from place to place, the events or losses that might have been traumatic. Where has the child's father been since conception? What kind of relationship is there between them? I promise I will help if you write this.

with love,
Laura

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my mommy had to go away when i was only 2yrs old

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Jul 19, 2011
Alice response to Laura
by: Anonymous

thank you for responding to my post, my sons are so amazing, i just feel so helpless, since i am barely coping with all the loss myself surrounded by a country i don´t recognize does not help, but everyday i try a little bit harder for my sake and their sake... my baby boy was only 6 months old when i first got arrested, and lived with his aunt since the age of 2 and a half, after 5 years they now live with me, i work as an English Teacher down here in Mexico, we are a great family just very torn apart, he recently made the comment to me, ¨mom, i feel as if i will never be happy, if i live with my aunt, i miss you, when i´m with you i miss the rest of our family¨...i cut down my work hours so that i can spend more time with them... it is helping, he hasn´t had a night tremor since... but i want to heal his scar...
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I understand and you are doing GREAT things. What happened between 6 months and moving to his Aunt? And what has the relationship with his biological father been like? Any other man who has been a father for him?

Here is what I am looking for, Alice. A complete and coherent accounting, from HIS EYES, of every important step and relationship in his life till now. He sounds like a VERY remarkably articulate boy. Healing scars begins with this detailed life story. The places where the story gets disorganized are often the places where there are unhealed scars.

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