I can dump people the second I feel like they're going to hurt me.

by Demi
(Los Angeles, CA USA)

I dump people as quickly as I love them. I can make someone "dead" in my mind. My mother taught me this coping mechanism. I am 39, never married and I am terrified to be close to someone. HELP!

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Demi- Please tell me more about your childhood losses. And your mothers' losses... We replay the past until we get resolution on what happened. What do you want? Do you behave in ways that destroy your chances? It is the past seeking resolution, and you CAN change.

with love
Laura

Dec 06, 2010

Fatherless Daughter
by: Anonymous

At age 6 my mother told me my dad was not my father. That my biological father left when I was a baby. Believing someone you love is your parent and then finds out he's not hurt enough, not only that having your mother think something that wasnt true.

Was it to protect me from hurting or was she ignoring the past? After that time went on and my mom and my dad "the man that raised me" got divorced. Needless to say I found my father on the internet and showed up at his house, we began getting to know each other. I was so happy, finally had a sense of belonging until his wife said her or me.

She didn't like the fact I was in his life, so he left again. Not only once but twice! Throughout my teenage years I have had trust issues. Until I met a 25 year old when I was 19 we started dating, ended up moving in with him.

I became very dependent on him thinking everything was great finally someone who actually loved and cared about me. Months went by and I seen his true colors. He became abusive, physically/emotionally.

I am now 24 and we are off and on dating. I know its a unhealthy relationship when things are good its great but I have severe trust issues. I dated 2 other guys, 1 which is very sincere and outgoing, however I just can't seem to shake off my first relationship, I feel comfortable even though I dont trust him.

I want a healthy relationship with a good guy that would never harm me. I want to be able to trust someone when they say they won't hurt/leave/give them a chance. Just not sure how to let this wall down.

I have a difficult time expressing feelings, or responding to people about theirs. I feel like if I say to much I will let them in and in the end I will only end up hurt. On the outside I look happy but on the inside very confused on life, relationships, and how to protect myself without being numb to others. Please help.

I can dump people the second I feel like they're going to hurt me.

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