~ Fear of Abandonment ~
Get Empowered~!
At its core, fear of abandonment is powerlessness.
All fears come down to a lack of power.
So it follows that empowerment is needed.
A lot of different things bring empowerment.
Understanding what is happening...
And what can be done
Is empowering.
When you understand your fear
You understand it is like a ghost.
A fearful ghost that disappears with the light of empowerment.
But...before we bring courage (empowerment) to your abandonment issues, a word about dis-empowerment.
I just read the top result on Google for “fear of abandonment”. It is sadly typical – totally dis-empowering.
The article says:“Dr.X describes fear of
abandonment as a psycho-
logical disorder where
the individual suffering
from this illness cannot
control the fear that he
or she feels when faced
with the idea of having
to cope with life and its
difficulties alone.”
The article explains "that abandonment issues can be treated with therapy as long as the individual is willing to use the therapist as a pillar to lean against while learning to be self sufficient." And yet another prominent "expert" article said that people cannot get over these issues on their own.
This kind of information is a disservice. It promotes the idea that if you have fear of abandonment, you are "ill" and incapable of dealing with emotional stress.
It is telling you to believe in the same powerlessness that supports abandonment issues in the first place.
Go to Part 2 (link below) to see how that makes things worse.
Is there any way to heal? Of course – simple principles of brain science bring understanding, empowerment, and healing...and I provide some simple steps for you to take toward healing below.
Will that also help with depression?
Of course – fear is emotional stress and emotional stress is linked to depression.
How does courage (empowerment) fit in?
Learning the origins and behaviors of your fears helps you understand what kind of courage you need. Understanding what kind of courage you need shows you what kind of positive action to take. Positive action leads to acceptance. Acceptance leads to courage. Courage leads to growth and strength.
Courageous, accepting, positive people who embrace growth
are not afraid of ghosts. Voila’! (say: "Wa La"!)
I help people just like you all the time. It actually isn't that hard to shift into your courageous growing self.
When fear of abandonment is called an illness, it only makes things worse. A LOT worse.
Go to Fear of Abandonment Part Two to see why.
People often tell me they can’t have healthy relationships or they are skeptical that I can help them.
Lest we forget: Relationships are natural -- unhealthy (or absent) relationships are unnatural.
Folks, as humans our brains and nervous systems are hard-wired to need relationships! This is actually a healthy, good need. I use a proven process called Resonance Repatterning® to identify the patterns that get in your way and assist you in shifting to new patterns.
I make no claims about instant fixes and if I did, the skeptics would be right. However, I do claim that sessions can powerfully move you from negative to positive patterns. These shifts change you from the inside out and ripple out into your life and relationships. These shifts change you:
who you attract - and how you act - and how you feel.
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