Fear of Abandonment - I'm the ex of someone with abandonment issues

(rochester)

I was recently dumped by a man with abandonment issues. His parents divorced when he was twelve. He was married and divorced at age 25 and 32. His mother died of cancer a year before his second marriage.

Our relationship together was far from perfect but I loved him very much despite his issues. Initially we were together for a year, spent 2 years as friends and then dated for another six months. Serveral months into our relationship he stopped having sex with me all together. He was no longer able to perform at all. I explained to him that I was willing to work through this with him but that he needed to put in the effort. He agreed and started seeing a therapist. He told me that I was the first person in his life that made him want to get help.

Then a month into therapy he started getting distant. I told him that he needed to talk to me so that i understand what was going on. It was like pulling teeth. I felt like he didnt care. I didnt understand abandonment issues and he wouldnt share. We took a break for a few weeks and when I called him he said that we needed to break up. It took me by suprise. I thought we were working on our issues.

I begged him to work on us. He told me that through therapy he learned that he was just going through the motions and that he was never in love with me. He said that i was not the girl for him. That he wanted to casually date other people. I was hurt but took some time to let my emotions settle.

A week later I told him that I respected his decision even though I'm still crazy about him. Like I said I just wanted him to work on our problems. At this point i'm not sure what to do.

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I understand this is a heartbreaking loss for you. Sadly, there isn't anything you can do for this relationship. What you can do is examine how you feel about the possibility of someone being crazy about YOU. You can set your intention and ask the universe to clear what gets in the way of a happy fulfilling relationship for you.

Not to be stereotypical, and speaking in highly simplified symbolic ideas...you as woman are like a flower and he as man is like the bee. Be connected and resonating with what is deeply attracting. Be connected with the divine feminine. Ask the universe for a man who is drawn to you, devoted to you, attracted to you. Someone who will woo you as well as prize you.

Intend for a guy to work hard to win you. See all the value you'd bring to his life.

with love
Laura