Depression Self Help 4:
Get Unstuck and
Shift Into Your Possibilities

Does depression self help seem impossible?

When your possibilities feel impossible, it is hard to have a happy dance with the question…

What do you want?

It could be your answer to that is just to want something.

Maybe what you want... is to want something...

How do you want to "show up" in your wanting? How do you want to show up for yourself?

As for me...I finally said I want to show up enjoying life. On my knees I said it. "I want to enjoy life I want to love life. I want to love". Whatever that meant...I had NO rules...no CONDITIONS. I did NOT say, "I want this and this and this so that I can enjoy life". Cuz I had hit the bottom of that road. I had already tried lots of conditions on what I thought it would take for me to love and to enjoy life and none of them had worked. As in NONE.

Back to you.

What do you want and how do you want to show up wanting it?

Maybe you have a response to that and maybe not. Either way…

See how these statements feel to you. Maybe you'd like to mark the ones you are good at with a "G", the ones you are weak at with a "W". If there are some you'd like to be better at, want to improve in, mark them with "I".

G = Good, W = Weak, I = Improvement desired

1. I release old resentments and anger
2. New beginnings are easy for me
3. I have a vision for my life
4. I have goals
5. I make good and beneficial decisions
6. I welcome and even seek input AND I am not too easily swayed by others
7. I have plans for my goals
8. My plans are open to change and opportunity, they are flexible
9. I take action toward my goals
10. I resolve my frustrations with thoughtful actions
11. My actions are based on my strengths
12. I am self confident
13. There is no blame
14. I appreciate my unique identity
15. I positively assert myself forward into my life
16. I create structure in my life
17. I enjoy my choices
18. I am clear headed
19. I am creative
20. I am productive
21. I see clearly, I am perceptive, I have insight, hindsight, and foresight
22. I learn from the past but live in the moment
23. I enjoy a challenge
24. I welcome change and growth
25. I can be counted on
26. I am motivated
27. I am growing toward my highest potential
28. I get things done
29. I learn from mistakes and move on
30. I "keep my eye on the ball and stay in the game"
31. I accept and love myself the way I am while I am continually learning and growing
32. Balance in mind, body, & spirit helps me achieve my goals
33. I keep a balanced perspective on all my goals
34. I and my life have movement
35. I am practical

…Do you feel desire to grow into some of these qualities? Maybe you see some of your strengths and feel a little better about yourself and your possibilities? What happened for you?

A key to depression self help is to shift attention from what you don't want to what you do want. It is so normal to feel bad about not 'being-doing-having' what you want. It is so normal to make 'wanting' into a problem, a 'personal problem', a personal failure.

Your possibilities are all about a GAP. There is a gap between where you are and where you'd like to be. THIS IS THE NATURE OF possibilities! Do you think it is good depression self help to accept that the nature of growth is a gap between "what is" and "what is becoming...what is possible"?

I enjoy the thought...

Another key to depression self help is remembering that as soon as you grow into a new strength, there is another possibility emerging ahead of you, just beyond your current grasp. Hence the 'gap'.

Babies don't even do that!

You don't want to be a bigger baby than a baby, do you?

Here is a great depression self help exercise...

If you saw a baby getting all wanked out because of the process it takes to learn to walk (or run, skip, jump, dance…What would you say to that baby?)

REALLY...answer that...What would you say to that baby?????

Now go look in the mirror and say the same thing. Say it every time you get wanked because you don't YET have what you want or you are not YET the person you want to be.

Every mistake, every failure, every experience teaches you something important. You were born with a will to expand, it is the nature of life itself. Some say it is the call to enlightenment, to God, to spirit, to home.

When you are in the game of depression self help you are glad for your learning experiences. I have an affectionate name for this...AFGE. AFGE stands for "another f'ing growth experience). A client of mine calls it 'getting healing mileage'.

You only need one thing for your depression self help to succeed...to have the experience of creating positive change.

This change can be inner or outer. Once you embody the experience of self-transformation, there is another and another and another waiting for you.

"I can't remember what life was like before because I am not that person any more, ~ but I do know that I used to be pretty darned miserable." V.G., Software Engineer, Boston

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