Depression Self Help

Depression Self Help Part 3 Continued....

1. Are you, (or were you), rejected by your family?

     "Inside all of us, no matter how "independent" 
     we are, is a child who fears being rejected
     and unloved by our family. Face it...
     what can hurt more?  This fear runs deep and 
     can be "paralyzing" when left unresolved."
     Laura Frisbie, M.Ed., CRRP

Are any of these beliefs still operating in your life?

Do you see any on-going themes? Depression self help questions can illumine issues that you have now...AND that you had as a child~!

For example, I felt rejected by my mother. Then I realized (in my 40's!) that my 'theme' of rejection was running (ruining) my life. I finally asked...Was the world rejecting me or was I rejecting the world? It was simply an unresolved, unmet need for acceptance...Acceptance of life and of the world, acceptance of myself, acceptance of my mother's way of being.

Ever hear the Gandhi quote? "You must be the change you want to see in the world." That is always a good one for depression self help!

3. Now look at your life as you grew into a young adult. What happened? Were there dreams you didn't allow yourself to have? Were you successful as a person? What were your overall feelings at that time?

     In my case, I rushed headstrong into life, bouncing 
     off one thing after another. I left home at 17  
     terrified and driven to succeed. I was like a 
     shark...I consumed life experiences with no pause, 
     no breath, no reflection. I invited STUPID risks.  
     By age 31, I was twice divorced and had 
     destroyed a stressful career in TV marketing. I 
     was destroying my health, had no positive 
     relationships, could not enjoy or feel satisfied 
     with anything. I missed my son's childhood. There 
     was no quality of self, no meaning. 


     A depression self help process, looking 
     at where I had been, what I was doing, where 
     I was going, what I wanted, who I was...who I 
     wasn't...would have provided self-reflection and   
     connection, maybe even guidance. It never occurred 
     to me that I could have choices or dreams, could
     follow my unique nature, could create a life that 
     felt good to me. 

4. How about you? How are you at connecting with yourself? With accepting your feelings? With feeling fully? At letting go and moving on?

Do you get closure on the past with an attitude of "older and wiser for the experience"?

a) Have you had any failures? Have you felt judged?

c) Have you felt embarrassed by how things worked out?

d) Have have you felt regret? grief? loss?

e) How much of your life has been in tension, anxiety, fear and dismay?

f) After you consider these questions...ask your heartspace, "What did I need?"

What did you need?

What DO you need?

If depression self help was only ONE thing...what one thing would help you the most?

"I can't remember what life was like before because I am not that person any more, ~ but I do know that I used to be pretty darned miserable." V.G., Software Engineer, Boston

"I have been offering phone sessions exclusively for several years
~they work beautifully and powerfully.
The safety of home allows for very deep healing. Each session also provides you with customized self-healing techniques."
Laura Frisbie, M.Ed., CRRP