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Depression Self Help 1 Are You Committed to Your Vision?
Vision is key to depression self help.
What is the vision you have for your life?
You might be holding a negative, life-depleting vision without being aware of it. How DO you see your life? Your self? Your world? Don't try to change it and don't feel wrong about it. Just notice...
Are you open to the possibility of another vision? Even if it is only the vision of some peace and acceptance with how things are (just for now)?
Here is my suggestion...if you do not have a "positive" vision for your life right now, you could have the vision that you will have a vision...that your vision will come when it is time. You can commit to a yet-to-be-determined vision for your life.
HOW-TO
Heart connection for your depression self help.
Bring your thoughts and awareness to your heart space. Let your responses rise up from your heart space. If you notice your attention up in your head, if you are frowning and looking up, return awareness to your heart, breathe "through your heart".
Forget about whether you are being "negative" or blaming or any other evaluations. Give yourself a break…life IS very difficult and you get to have feelings. Your feelings are NOT the problem, I promise...you will see.
!~Depression Self Help Tip~!
Something I often see in people I work with is self-condemnation...a harsh judgment around their feelings. Notice how you respond to your own feelings. "I shouldn't feel that way.", "I'm an awful person.", "Isn't that pathetic.".... Try taking just one day and noticing every thought you have about your feelings.
Depression self help has to start with being kind to your self!
Imagine being the softest, kindest, lovingest, soothingest mother figure you can be to your feelings. Something like this... "Awwww baby, it's ok, of course you feel that way, anyone would. It's ok to feel that way, don't worry, you'll feel better in no time. Just look at all you've been through! Look at how much you care, and how hard you try! Don't be so hard on yourself!"
PART ONE - THE NOW
1) Do you have a vital sense of direction and purpose in your life?
2) What is your vision for your life? How would you like your life to look? You need not decide anything. Just "make a list" of whatever comes up (everything~!). You might notice a pattern or a certain "essence" underneath your different ideas.
3) Are you committed to your vision? Do you fully accept and support your vision?
4) What are some of the doubts, fears, regrets, apologies or "shame" you have concerning your vision? What problems do you experience concerning your vision? Consider how you might second guess yourself or how others are unsupportive. What is in your way? What do you need that you can't get? Be honest, allow yourself to express "negativity".
5) What are you frustrated or angry about? Don't go to the next step until you've made a complete list. Throw EVERYTHING into your list!)
6) What are your current goals in relation to: (pick one)-- self image, work, creativity, spiritual life, relationship, family, other? (Don't have any goals? For now...fill in the blank. "Wouldn't it be nice if...____________)
As you can see, depression self help starts with evaluating where you are, then deciding what you want. This is just the beginning, there is more you can do to help your self through your depression.
