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In these depression chat rooms, visitors share everything from early childhood experiences to present day issues with relationships to depression poems. I do my best to respond.

Please join us! Feel free to ask for (or to offer) help by typing in the box below.



Sometimes people wonder if they have abandonment issues. It is often later in life before people say, "Ohhhhh, I get it! It's been abandonment issues all this time!" (I was one of those).

At any rate, click on this link to see about thirty submissions to the Fear of Abandonment Chat Rooms. You will find every kind of story you can imagine, from childhood scenes to present day relationship problems, written in response to my question. "Do your abandonment issues today have anything to do with your childhood?"



Some Q & A about being in relationships when you have fear of abandonment issues


I posted carefully thought-out responses to many of them. If you have something to share or a question to ask, please post it below for readers of depression chat rooms.



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    HELP!  My husband of 15 years had two girls by a young girl when they were both 17 years of age. My husband decided that he did not any longer want the responsibility ...

    Even when we say goodnight i feel abandoned  Hey- My names Blue and i'm just realizing why i am the way i am and how it all started.
    Im 25 now and am coping with an overwhelming feeling of aloneness ...

    I got cancer and now my friends are nowhere to be found. Family, too  Cancer is a horrible disease, that grates on a person's mind emotionally 24hrs a day.

    Early on in my diagnosis, I would think "Well, at least I'll have ...

    Abandoned-Mystery Solved  I did not know how bad things were when I was little until my mom died of breast cancer at age 55. When I read her DD214 from the military, I saw that ...

    SO alone, I was not prepared for this world or to be a man.  I am feeling so alone right now, no friends in person, I never really had friends, I thought I did for a while but they betrayed me.

    Let's go back ...

    Fear of Abandonment - emotional abuse, withholding affection  I grew up with both parents, but it was emotionally abusive. It's hard for me to describe. I think one of the things that happened was that my Dad would ...

    Fear of Abandonment - who is dad?  In my thirties,
    Just starting to realize
    The things I always thought
    Were never a big deal
    Mom said "If he were a real dad, he wouldn't have left
    He ...

    Trying to figure out myself  I've had a crazy life story. It always sucks when I meet a new person and they ask about my parents, I always feel uncomfortable and never know how to ...

    I can dump people the second I feel like they're going to hurt me.  I dump people as quickly as I love them. I can make someone "dead" in my mind. My mother taught me this coping mechanism. I am 39, never married and ...

    Fear of Abandonment - Me  I have fear of abandonment issues. I remember crying a lot in my crib alone with ear infections.

    My father refused to talk to me when I was upset ...

    Abandoned. Fear of Abandonment Issues  My dad kept me a secret from everyone he knew including his wife and my two brothers til I was 11 years old. When the secret came out he chose to abandon ...

    i thought that working out would make me happy, but it only made me unhappy to a next level  i hate the city i live in, i have no desire to do anything,i sleep something like 18 hours a day and i really don't want to go on medication. can somebody ...

    My sister dies when I was 17 months  I was the youngest of 4. My parents were in a terrible car accident just after I was born. My youngest sister, who was 4 at the time became "Mother". She ...

    Seasonal depression? just grief and sadness?  Last year, dec 23 my father became ill and went into the hospital. he never recovered and died in march. the day we burried him, my wonderful mother ...

    I don't know why  I feel the way I do. I was not abused, or bullied, or abandoned ad no one close to me has died. But for over a year now I have been severely depressed....

    21-year-old with abandonment challenges  I have given shelter to a young woman who just turned 21. When she arrived she had been on the street for about a year, she was malnourished and sickly ...

    Me..  Abused....mistreated......broken what more can I say.

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    Sounds like it is time to get to work and get better~!

    Roy  I have been through so much emotional, mental,and physical abuse sence I was 4. I am now 35 and it has not stoped.It has just gotten on a larger scale....

    Fear of Abandonment- Losing the ones I love most  Well, when I was thirteen I stopped seeing my father and his side of the family. We never got to say goodbye to my family. I missed them of course, but ...

    I'm 11 years old with depression  Ok so I started cutting a month ago and it wasnt bad cutting then it got really bad cause now I start to bleed alot and just 4 hours ago I attempted suicide....

    should i just do it?  You know, im really sick of feeling like this. i dont remember what its like to be happy anymore. I feel like i have nothing going for me anymore. im pretty ...

    Now what?  I am in my mid-30's. When I was 2 years old, my father left my mother. He married and divorced twice before I graduated from High School and has been ...

    Abandonment and Anger  I never knew anything but fear of being alone since childhood. My mother left me with my grandmother when I was a baby and I never met my father. My ...

    cutting  im 14 and i have depression no one knows but my closest friends and even they might not know. ive been wanting to badly to cut myself for a while but cant ...

    not abandonment but close enough  i was 15 going on 16 (this happen in October 2008) when i lost my great grandpa. i never met my grandparents, either set, so my mom's grandparents were ...

    i'm not sure this is abandonment but close enough i guess   when i was 15 going on 16 (he passed away a week before my 16th birthday in October of 2008) i lost my great grandpa, i had never known either set of grandparents ...

    Indelible Mark  Ever since I was a child, I remember that a lot of those experiences made their own contribution to my fear of abandonment.
    One is that my parents have ...

    found my dad now i fear abandonment  so i am 32 and i just found my real dad about a month ago! i fear abandonment and it sucks...such as when he doesn't call me or text me back with in 24 ...

    looking for answers to heal  when i was a small child i pulled my hair out. only at night. my parents would put socks and bonnets to protect me, but i would always get loose. is ...

    Fear of relationship and trusting issues  I am 38 yrs old. I am a product of a broken family. My dad left for the US when i was 13 years old and never came back. But he sent us financial support ...

    Abandoment  I was left at home with an abusive sibling. I understand my mom needed to work but her employers told her she can bring me with her. I never understood ...

    Nobody is here...  Nobody is here...
    The thought consumed my six year old mind. My sister tormented me and my father wasn't sure of what to do with me. My mother smothered ...

    Working Thru my Fear of Abandonment  Please tell me this will get easier. Even though I thought by the time I was 52 years old I wouldn't be so worked up about a man who doesn't call. Or ...

    My dark lonely childhood  I know when my issues started. I was 6 yrs old my parents split up and my brother mum and i were all of a sudden living with this new guy. Im gonna cut ...

    Fear of Abandonment Issues - Father   My father and mother were together a short time before i was born. my mother already had a child from a previous relationship and was dealing with the ...

    Abandonment Issues - leave me alone where i belong  When i was 19 my mom moved to a different city. away from my friends and family, i didnt know a soul. the only reason i was sober was because i was pregnant,...

    At age 44, I still have abandonment issues..  Can you believe it at age 44 I still cry about my abandonment issues that my mother and father never loved me.

    I am the oldest of 5 siblings. My parents ...

    My story  When I was a young child my mother who is schizophrenic would drop me off at a lady's house and leave me for months then come back again.

    This happened ...

    Abandonment isues form the perspective of abandoner  Recently I found out that I suffer from abandonment issues. I am 30 and behind me have 7-year and 3-year long relationships and at the moment in one for ...

    Fear of Abandonment ---I'm Done feeling like this  I've had issues with my father since i was a little girl. i dont remember him ever doing anything with me as a child. The only things i do remember is ...

    Fear of Abandonment Issues  Six Q and A on Fear of Abandonment

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    Stories of Abandonment  Stories of abandonment issues from readers

    Fear of Abandonment - Parents.  My biological father left my mother when I was 2. My mother raised me and my sister a single mother. Until I was about 7 or 8. Then she met my step father....

    Ro  I was taken from my biological mother (16 year old girl) at birth (I just turned 58)
    I was in a nursery in a hospital for 10 days
    I was adopted. My mother ...

    I hate my past   dmy mother had a few mental health problems when I was 10 or so , and at age 12 she gave me away to the government . they didn't know what do with me so ...

    breaking the ladder  I grew up with a mother who had been abandoned at birth. She was given up for adoption. She spent the first months of her life at The Children's Home Society ...

    Fear of Abandonment - He's ours now  When I was a teenager my mother took in a boy around the same age I was. He came from the most broken of backgrounds, but he became my brother. We are ...

    My demon  I have dealt with depression for what seems like the majority of my life. Recently I have been diagnosed with BPD and told I suffer from emotional dysregulation ...

    depressed   For over a year now, I have been stalked by a former employer. He recruited men to date me and after learning about this I suffered a nervous breakdown....

    D  Mother and Father divorced when I was 18 months old. Father raised me. Never knew there was more to the story. Mother "seemed" to love me as I was growing ...

    BUM (back up mom!)  So I Left a message earlier about my concern for my 13 yr old step son, whom i adore as my own. How can I help him know that his mother still loves him ...

    Fear of Abandonment - Digging the roots out  I am 36, I have been doing some deep soul searching for the last 10 months for answers to the way that I am and and have been becoming for years.

    My ...

    Fear of Abandonment --Puffur left me, my mom caused it  My mother, hated me, hard to believe but she did. I had a pet bunny I loved, I felt it was my only source of love at the time. Even in the 5th grade when ...

    Fear of Abandonment - A life of worry  I'm not really sure how to put it all down here. I was never actually "abandoned" by anyone in my family, but I'm sure that my issues started young.

    My ...

    The feelings just keep coming back...  When I was 5, my dad left. I never really heard my parents fighting and it kind of came as a surprise to me. My most vivid image from my childhood is my ...

    Lost little girl  I remember it vividly when I was 7 my father telling me he was moving out and gifting me with a tea set. I didnt see him again until I was 12. My sister,...

    Abandonment issues  My mother died suddenly when I was three. One minute she was there to help and guide me, the next minute she was gone. My family has always ignored my ...

    Miss Volatile.  Well, here it goes:

    My Mother is severely bipolar, a horrible alcoholic and undiagnosed but terribly obvious Borderline Personality Disorder.

    My ...

    More Stories of Abandonment and Pain  A Collection of Abandonment Wounds From Our Visitors

    emotionally aware...now. :)  Laura, I have been knowing for awhile that I have had abandonment issues related to my childhood experiences of being physically abused at six months old(...


    It is difficult when your partner has abandonment issues. How can you cope?

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    Then there is the other side of the coin, the people who are in relationship with us "fear of abandonment" messes. Whew! I am so thankful for my husband (my third). He was the only one able to handle me and my stuff. (I'm all better now, thank you!)

    Here are some true stories posted on depression chat rooms and please, add your own... Partners with Abandonment Issues


    Depression Poems

    depression poems Thank you, thank you, one and all, for your very beautiful and heart-wrenching depression poems. Sending you love and light always....

    Go to Depression Poems Chat Room

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    Child Abandonment

    depression support groups This depression chat rooms page was inspired by a woman who has been step-mother of a boy for five years, since he was 5 years old. He was abandoned by his mother and he "acts out".

    My heart goes out to all of them, as I work with adults who suffer from the unresolved wounds of abandonment. I'd like to support the care givers of abandoned kids with some practical ways they can help these kids...before they end up like us!

    I have so many ideas that might help someone in her position, with some way a caring adult could help a child move through some of the heart-ache.

    Then I chickened out. I had a hard time imagining normal people talking a kid through such intense things -- like I do in sessions with adults. It might be asking too much of them.

    I'm thinking I'd like to get a professional to offer some ideas, or maybe I'll interview an art therapist. I'm sorry to let it dangle like this.

    Maybe you have something you can share to help this page along.

    There is one story about Zella, by Zella. It was sumitted by the grown woman that Zella has become. Heart-breaking, beautiful, inspiring... Children with Abandonment Issues


    depression chat room How can I begin to thank you all for your submissions to our depression chat rooms? You make this site so meaningful, so sweet, so sad, so true, so inspiring...

    I feel honored beyond expression that you share yourselves.

    Any other topics you'd like to see for depression chat rooms? Anything on relationships, parenting, or self-help, for example? Just submit your thoughts in the invitation above and we'll see what happens.



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