Abandonment isues form the perspective of abandoner

by andrijana
(croatia)

Recently I found out that I suffer from abandonment issues. I am 30 and behind me have 7-year and 3-year long relationships and at the moment in one for almost a year. I left all my relationships at the very end when I was really unhappy and started looking outside at other men. I have communication problem with expressing my emotions, I bear everything inside myself and just explode at some point of time and leave. After break ups, I get depressed and anxious for a long time, more than a one year period.
Now, I am in a relationship with a nice guy who really loves me but I feel I cannot give or receive love. I feel stucked inside without knowing when a person is right for me or what do I want/need to be satisfied. I'm hunted with past memories and can't let go of some unresolved fantasies that me and my ex will be together again. Althouhg I was unhappy with him. It's emotional chaos for me. I fell so insecure to break with current man and be alone, I cry a lot and looking for help.

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Yes, sounds like classic abandonment issues. I wish we could do a few sessions and get your love energy cleared up and flowing. Many people report getting help from some of the pages on this site. Try the Emotional Release.

Focus on your early childhood rather than current boyfriends. Notice the feelings you had when very young and the qualities of your relationships with your parents. Really FEEL again how you felt then.

Is now similar to then in any way, as to how you feel? What did you need then? What would it have been like...if you had your needs met back then?

I wish you success in your journey to inner peace and love.
Laura