How to Heal Your
Abandonment Issues
Abandonment issues make it difficult to have fulfilling relationships. Going through life with UNfulfilling relationships IS depressing.
The real kick in the pants is that fear and insecurity
become the reality you live, become a self-fulfilling prophesy, become the fatal flaw in what may be real love.
Even worse: Fear of abandonment can create a pattern where you attract those who abandon you.
Or you abandon them.
What happens in your body when you feel fear?
I'm tense
I'm too serious
I stop breathing deeply
I'm tied in knots
I freeze or feel numb
I worry a lot
I don't play and have fun
I want to be somewhere else
I attack
Pause and take a look at yourself, a compassionate look. See yourself struggling with fear of abandonment.
See how it affects you and your life - your sense of self, your ability to feel whole. Your ability to have happy, inter-dependent relationships. Your ability to attract fully available people.
Healing your abandonment issues is key to enjoying life.
In order to heal your
abandonment issues
you must:
- Identify and heal the earlier experiences that underlie your issues (often child abandonment).
- Identify your beliefs, feelings, and unmet needs that formed in connection with those earlier experiences.
- Build the new, life-enhancing, coherent beliefs, feelings, and needs that will bring you inner power and deep, lasting growth.
- Create a "shift" in your energy field from the old to the new. This requires more than the usual "talking/thinking?understanding/problem solving" of the left brain.
- Become empowered by WHO YOU ARE. Connect with your genuine power and potential. Know that change is possible. Shift what you resonate with. I do this all day, every day. It is so very do-able~! "Simple but not easy" as the saying goes, unless you know how, of course.
What is it that keeps creating painful relationships?
Or blocks them from the start?
The answer is unique to each person.
Yet at the same time, there are many common issues that we share.
Which negative beliefs support
your abandonment issues?
Beliefs are thoughts that you take to be true...and of course, they do seem true. Your beliefs have a huge (and I mean HUGE) influence on your experiences. However, your beliefs and experiences CAN CHANGE.
If you seek to break a pattern you see in your self, you will have to go deeper than romantic relationships. It is likely the pattern began in your childhood.
I myself didn't realize that I had abandonment issues until my late 40s - in my THIRD marriage! Isn't it odd, how something so deep and painful, that colored my entire life, was invisible to me?
The truth is...most of us have a
hurt and abandoned inner child.
Your issues are rooted in the experience and reality of life...
Life Is Abandoning. Think about it.
Intense feelings around abandonment trigger unconscious survival reactions. Very painful, uncontrollable reactions. It doesn't get much bigger than this. A lot of suffering revolves around child abandonment, even if you were never "technically" abandoned.
People often tell me they cant have healthy relationships or they are skeptical that I can help them.
Lest we forget: Relationships are natural -- unhealthy (or absent) relationships are unnatural.
Folks, as humans we are hard-wired for relationships! This is actually a healthy, good need. I use a proven process called Resonance Repatterning to identify the patterns that get in your way and assist you in shifting to new patterns.
I make no claims about instant fixes and if I did, the skeptics would be right. However, I do claim that sessions can powerfully move you from negative to positive patterns. These shifts change you from the inside out and ripple out into your life and relationships. These shifts change you:
who you attract - and how you act - and how you feel.
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Now its your turn. Tell us about your abandonment.
Go to Abandonment Stories and Responses
Are you partners, family or friends with someone with abandonment issues?
What is it like to know someone with abandonment issues? Share here.
Abandonment Issues Part Two
Go to Part 3 for self help.
Courage and Empowerment for fear of abandonment.
Tell us your abandoment story, or see other stories, and my responses.
See what Zella shared about her childhood abandonment. And share yours.
Go to "Overcoming Depression" for self-healing therapies to shift your fears.
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