Do Abandonment Issues Ever Go Away?

Your abandonment issues may not ever disappear entirely. However, you can make a noticable difference through this self help process.

Which negative beliefs support
your abandonment issues?

• I have no support

• People and relationships are exhausting

• I feel invisible

• I have nothing to contribute

• I am defective and unlovable

• I can't trust

• I can't get my needs met

• I am unprotected & cannot find safety

• I am overcome with pain

• I cannot function well

• I feel insecure

• I have painful relationships

• I need approval from others

• I can't do anything right

• I am rejected and betrayed

• I betray myself

• I don't know my own heart

• I cannot handle emotional pain

• I feel anxious and afraid

Pause and take a look at yourself, a compassionate look. See yourself struggling with fear of abandonment and how it affects you, see how it affects your life...your sense of self.

• What is the main problem you are facing?

• Do you see any similarities between your fear of abandonment NOW and in the past when you were with your family?

• Did your parents or caretakers suffer from abandonment issues?

• When you were in school, in community, or in church, did you feel anxious, alone, abandoned?

What are you MOST afraid of?

What happens in your body
when you feel fear?

• I'm tense

• I'm too serious

• I stop breathing deeply

• I feel scared

• I worry a lot

• I don't play and have fun

• I want to be somewhere else

• I go into my head and judge myself and others

• I feel stupid and unattractive

• I withdraw

• I re-play conversations in my head

• I expect the worse

Click for a quick healing: Thought Stopping

What do you want

...instead of your abandonment issues?

• I enjoy times of bonding for togetherness and time alone for solitude

• I enjoy being with others even if I am not talking to anyone

• I relax, expand my heart's magnetic field, and make a warm contact with someone

• I accept myself as I am

• I breathe and enjoy life and smile from my heart

• I recognize that others may feel the same discomfort as I do and I reach out to them

• I come from my heart with others

• I feel liked, valued, and respected

• I listen to my heart and to the heart of what others say

• I am radiant

• I let go of my painful past experiences and experiment with new ways to connect

• People enjoy being around me

• I laugh a lot

• I honor each individual's essence and remember we are all one

• I exude confidence. I have courage for relationships.

• I stand in my strength.

• I love eye contact. My eyes sparkle with appreciation.

• I am infinitely curious about everything!

• I drop all judgments (of self and others)

• I warmly connect to Spirit in each person

What are your own words for what you want?

To find out what you need in order to feel calm and safe, click here Abandonment Issues - part 3 for the powerful (and quick!) conclusion of Abandonment Issues Self Help.

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