Do Abandonment Issues Ever Go Away?
Your abandonment issues may never completely disappear. However, this self help process can make a difference.
What is the main problem
your abandoment issues create?
What are you MOST afraid of?
Which negative beliefs support your fears?
I have no support People and relationships are exhausting I feel invisible I have nothing to contribute I am defective and unlovable I can't trust I can't get my needs met I am unprotected & cannot find safety I am overcome with pain I cannot function well I feel insecure I have painful relationships I need approval from others I can't do anything right I am rejected and betrayed I betray myself I don't know my own heart I cannot handle emotional pain I feel anxious and afraid
Beliefs are thoughts that you take to be true...and of course they do seem true. However, your beliefs and experiences CAN CHANGE.
Abandonment issues begin in infancy. Even with the best caregivers, infants experience fear of abandonment. This fear created stress chemicals in your system and were linked with your caregivers.
The truth is...most of us have a hurt and abandoned inner child. These issues are rooted in the experience and reality of life...
Child Abandonment Issues
A pattern was created where
Love became equated with fear and insecurity. Did your early life include an environment with strong emotions, stress, instability, separation, broken attachments?
Were your fears and stresses usually resolved with love and communication? No? This started a buildup of unmet needs that began when you were too young to deal with them. When stress brain/body chemicals come along with (or instead of) love and safety, it creates conflicting feelings. Patterns that you have no control over were established and then kept repeating ... When you were a child: When you were in school, in community, or in church, or with your family, did you feel anxious, alone, abandoned? Do you see any similarities between your abandonment issues NOW and as a child ...when you were with your family? Did your parents or caretakers suffer from abandonment issues?
"The key to healing our wounded souls is
to get clear and honest in our emotional
process. Until we change the distorted,
negative perspectives and reactions to
our human emotions, we cannot get in touch
with the level of emotional energy that is
Truth. We cannot get reconnected to our
Spiritual Self. Fear of Intimacy, joy2meu.com
Because fear of abandonment is so painful and is triggered and reinforced over and over again, it is a good idea to begin by
releasing trapped stress and emotions.
Are you interested in finding OTHER, more SUPPORTIVE and EMPOWERING thoughts and beliefs...that are even more powerful than abandonment beliefs? Would you like to face and deal with your fears and move on to the next level in your growth? Would you like to discover and create more peace, joy, and possibilities in your life and relationships?
Resisting feelings of fear only makes things worse. Accepting or "dealing with it" is not resignation, it is maturity. Accepting your fear is the place to start because it is... "better to light a candle than to curse the darkness." One small flame illuminates a room full of darkness..
People often tell me they cant have healthy relationships or they are skeptical that I can help them.
Lest we forget: Relationships are natural -- unhealthy (or absent) relationships are unnatural.
Folks, as humans our brains and nervous systems are hard-wired to need relationships! This is actually a healthy, good need. I use a proven process called Resonance Repatterningฎ to identify the patterns that get in your way and assist you in shifting to new patterns.
I make no claims about instant fixes and if I did, the skeptics would be right. However, I do claim that sessions can powerfully move you from negative to positive patterns. These shifts change you from the inside out and ripple out into your life and relationships. These shifts change you:
who you attract - and how you act - and how you feel.
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